Dating Q's & London Stuff

And Wendy's Frosty Cereal

It’s crazy to think that summer is almost over. I stepped outside and didn’t immediately burst into flames so…that’s how I know this. I looked at my weather app and lo and behold, a perfectly mild 72 degrees.

Anyway, things have been a little hectic over here as we move into Q4 (I literally haven’t said that sentence in 5 years), and I wanted to share a few things. Ever since I started using those anonymous Q&A things, it made me realize just how many people are afraid to ask me shit when they know I can see who it’s coming from. I mean…I don’t bite, but I guess I get it.

First things first - let’s talk about dating. I have gotten so many dating questions lately that I’m debating starting an entirely new series called “Dara’s Dating Digest” or Triple D, if you will. Jk, pretty sure Guy Fieri holds the licensing for “Triple D.”

But I digress.

I have gone on a lot of dates this year, and just recently ended something that seemed pretty promising for a while there, so that was disappointing. I wasn’t the one who ended it, but I can’t say I didn’t see it coming (heads up: when someone suddenly stops texting you…that’s a pretty clear sign). But I don’t take ghosting lightly after what happened in my last breakup, so thankfully we actually spoke about it like adults (and it only took light nudges from my end)!

I also got a lot of “red flag” questions and that’s a tough one because it’s subjective. A green for me might be a red for someone else. I’ve also accepted at this stage of my life that everyone is going to have SOME red flags, it just comes down to whether they’re the kind that you can handle or WANT to handle. Either way, that decision isn’t solely on you - you both have to be willing to put in the effort. And when one person stops making that effort, that’s when you know it’s done. And again, don’t ghost, just communicate that shit and move on.

So anyway. Some people asked for funny/cringe stories, so here’s one. I matched with a guy on Hinge, literally don’t even remember his name, and we had maybe 2 messages back and forth before he said “I’m gonna just skip the small talk and ask for your number right now.” And I was like “that’s neat but you’re not gonna get it.” To which he said “ok. best of luck.”

LOL.

I appreciate confidence and I understand you want to cut to the chase and get off the apps, but the point of the app is to screen. I don’t need to be doing the paragraph/novel text thing either, but I barely said hello to this guy and he wants my number? Sit down bro. This is a numbers game and you gotta participate. Here’s the real life scenario of that: a guy walks up to you in a bar, says hello then immediately asked for your number. That’s weird. You gotta chat a LITTLE first.

After that, I decided to match with someone because his cat was cute. That was stupid and eventually I had to come up with an excuse and back out of the conversation gracefully.

Listen, you don’t get to be 38 and single by choosing wisely. I think I’ve decided that I will be taking a break from the apps for a bit. Clearly my mind is not in the right place if I’m choosing men based off of their pets.

And lastly, let’s talk about London! I’ll be heading there for a quick trip next week and I’m VERY excited. Mainly because I haven’t been anywhere this year and I’ve been itching for a trip, but also because I get to hang with friends and get some solo time too. Kind of an ideal scenario in my world.

If you missed my IG stories I asked for recommendations, so feel free to drop some in the comments below. Food, stuff to do, bars for good music/dancing, anything. I’m only there for 5 days, just FYI.

Unrelated, but I picked up a box of that Wendy’s Frosty cereal since everyone lost their shit over it when I put it on my stories. Stay tuned for a full recap/review.

Skinny Pig —> Guinea Pig.

CHEERIO!